Love Takes Delight
Enjoy life with the life you love all the days of your fleeting life. Ecclesiastes 9.9
One of the most important things we should learn on this Love Dare Journey is that you don't just follow your heart. You LEAD it. In your marriage relationship, you won't always feel like loving. Nobody can maintain a burning desire for togetherness just on feelings alone. But it is also difficult to love someone only out of obligation.
Newlyweds experience a fresh and new love with the hopes of a romantic future lingering in their hearts. However, something equally powerful as that fresh new love is found in the decision to delight in and love your spouse no matter how long you've been married. Love that chooses to love is just as powerful as love that feels like loving. In many ways, it's truer love because it has its eyes wide open.
Left to ourselves, we'll always lean toward being disapproving of one another. She'll get on your nerves. He'll aggravate you. Instead of wasting your days bickering, it's time to lead your heart to once again delight in your mate. Enjoy your spouse. Desire his conversation. Accept this person- quirks and all- and welcome him back into your heart.
You get to choose what you treasure. If you're irritable, it's because you choose to be. If you can't function without a clean house it's because you've decided no other way will do. If you pick at your mate more than you praise them, it's because you've allowed your heart to be selfish. You've led yourself into criticism.
CHOOSE TO LEAD YOUR HEART BACK OUT! Learn to delight in your spouse once again, then watch your heart actually start enjoying who they are.
The Bible contains many romantic love stories but none more blatant than the eight chapters found in the Song of Solomon.
The woman, "Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the young men. In his shade I took great delight and sat down, and his fruit was sweet to my taste. He has brought me to his banquet hall and his banner over me is love." Song of Solomon 2.3-4
The man, "Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, and come along. O my dove, in the clefts of the rock, in the secret place of the steep pathway, let me see your form, let me hear your voice, for your voice is sweet and your form is lovely." Song of Solomon 2.13-14
Too sappy? Too mushy? Not for those who lead their hearts to delight in their beloved- even when the new wears off... it's time to remember why you once fell in love. To laugh again. To flirt again. To dream again. Delightfully.
Today's dare may be directing you to a real and radical change of heart. For some the move toward delight may be only a small step away. For others, it may require a giant leap from ongoing disgust.
But if you've been delighted before- which you were when you got married- you can be delighted again. The responsibility is yours to relearn what you love about this one to whom you've promised yourself forever.
Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse. Do something he or she would love to do or a project they'd really like to work on. Just be together.