Yesterday's follow-up: Did anything happen to cause anger toward your mate? Were you tempted to think disapproving thoughts and to let them come out in words? If you feel led, share your comments about yesterday below. Then read up on today's dare.
Love Is Kind
"Be kind one to another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you." Ephesians 4.32
Kindness is love in action. If patience is how love reacts in order to minimize a negative circumstance, kindness is how love acts to maximize positive circumstance. Patience a problem; kindness creates a blessing. One if preventative, the other proactive.
The Bible says this about kindness, "Do not let kindness and truth leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good repute in the sight of God and man." Proverbs 3.3-4
Kindness can be broken down into four basic core ingredients:
1. Gentleness- When you operate from kindness you are sensitive and tender with your spouse.
2. Helpfulness- Being kind means you meet the needs of the moment, serving, without considering your rights.
3. Willingness- Kindness inspires you to be agreeable, flexible, and cooperative instead of obstinate, reluctant or stubborn.
4. Initiative- Kindness thinks ahead. It sees the need and then makes the move- first!
It's difficult to demonstrate love when you feel little to no motivation. But love in its truest sense is not based on feelings. Rather, love determines to show thoughtful actions even when there seems to be no reward. You will never learn to love until you learn to demonstrate kindness.
In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.