Love is Not Selfish
"Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor." Romans 12.10
We live in a world that is enamored with "self." The culture around us teaches us to focus on our appearance, feelings, and personal desires as the top priority. The goal, it seems, is to chase the highest level of happiness possible. Unfortunately, if there were ever a word that basically means the opposite of love, it is selfishness. Almost every sinful action ever committed can be traced back to a selfish motive. It is a trait we hate in other people but justify in ourselves. Why do we have such low standards for ourselves but high expectations for our mate? The answer is too simple to ignore and too painful to swallow... WE ARE SELFISH!!!
When a husband puts his interests above that of his wife- selfish. When a wife complains about the time and energy she spends on her husbands needs- selfish. Love, "does not seek its own" (I Cor. 13.5) That's because true love looks for ways to say, YES! Choosing to love your mate will cause you to say "no" to what you want so you can say "yes" to what they need.
Here are a few questions we all need to ask ourselves:
1. Do I truly want what's best for my ___________? (Insert relationship here)
2. Do I want them to feel loved by me?
3. Do they believe I have their best interests in mind?
4. Do they see me as looking out for myself first?
"Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourself. " Philippians 2.3
Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something that you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, "I was thinking of you today."