Love Is Not Jealous
Love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire. - Song of Solomon 8.6
Jealousy is one of the strongest drives known to man. It comes from the root word for ZEAL and means, "To burn with an intense fire." The Scripture pointedly says, "Wrath is fierce and anger is a flood, but who can stand before jealousy?" Proverbs 27.4
There are actually two forms of jealousy- a legitimate jealousy based upon love and an illegitimate jealousy based upon envy. An affair tends to lead to legitimate jealousy. A wife gives herself to another leading her husband to have a justified, jealous anger as he longs to have back what is rightfully his.
The Bible describes God as having this kind of righteous jealousy for His people. He's not envious of us, wishing He had what we have since he already owns everything. He deeply longs for us- desiring for us to keep Him as our first love. The Bible warns us not to worship anything but Him because "the Lord your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God"(Deuteronomy 4.24)
Illegitimate jealousy opposes love and is rooted in selfishness. It is sparked when someone else upstages you and gets something you want. It leads to fighting, quarreling and every evil thing. (James 3.16, 4.1-2) Jealousy caused Cain to murder Abel, Sarah to send away her handmaiden because Hagar could bear children, and Joseph's brothers to sell him into slavery. And ultimately, what caused Jesus to be crucified. When selfishness rules, any good thing happening to only on of you in marriage can be a catalyst for envy... and illegitimate jealousy.
Love, however, is not selfish and puts others first, it refuses to let jealousy in. It leads you to celebrate the successes of your spouse rather than resenting them. It is time to let love, humility and gratefulness destroy any jealousy that springs up in your heart.
Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take Yesterday's list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse(child) how glad you are about a success he/she recently enjoyed.