Love Believes the BEST! (Hold on today ya'll... )
...(Love) believes all things, hopes all things. -I Corinthians 13:7
In the deep and private corridors of your heart, there is a room. It's called the Appreciation Room. It's where your thoughts go when you encounter positive and encouraging things about your spouse. On the walls are written kind words and phrases describing the good attributes of your mate. Included may be "honest", "intelligent" and or "diligent worker". When you think about these things your appreciation for your spouse begins to increase.
Down another darker corridor of your heart lies the Depreciation Room and unfortunately you visit there as well. Its walls are lined with the weaknesses and failures of your spouse. Their bad habits, hurtful words, and poor decisions are written in large letters that cover the walls from one end to the other. Visiting this room can cause depression as emotional injuries fester here.
Spending time in the Depreciation Room KILLS MARRIAGES. Divorces are plotted in this room as hearts devalue spouses.
LOVE KNOWS ABOUT THE DEPRECIATION ROOM BUT CHOOSES NOT TO LIVE IN IT.
You must decide to stop running to this room and lingering there after every frustrating event in your relationship. Love chooses to believe the best about people and gives them the benefit of the doubt. It refuses to fill in the unknowns with negative assumptions.
As much as possible, love focuses on the positive.
It's time to let love lead your thoughts and your focus. The only reason you should glance in the door of the Depreciation Room is to know how to pray for your spouse. And the only reason you should ever go into this room is to write, "Covered in LOVE" across the walls.
Developing the habit of reigning in your negative thoughts and focusing on the positive attributes of your mate is a crucial step to learning to lead your heart to truly love your spouse. It is a decision that you make, whether they deserve it or not.
For Today's Dare, get two sheets of paper. On the first one, spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with negative things on the second piece. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day. There is a different purpose and plan for each. At some point during the remainder of the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic.