Love is not RUDE!
He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him. -Proverbs 27.14
Nothing irritates others as quickly as being rude. Rudeness is unnecessarily saying or doing things that are unpleasant for another person to be around. To be rude is to act unbecoming, embarrassing, or irritating. Rude behavior may seem insignificant to the person doing it, but it's unpleasant to those on the receiving end.
GENUINE LOVE MINDS ITS MANNERS!
In marriage, good manners express to your wife or husband, "I value you enough to exercise some self-control around you. I want to be a person who's a pleasure to be with. " When you allow love to change your behaviour- even in the smallest of ways, you restore an atmosphere of honor to your relationship.
For the most part, the etiquette you use at home differs from that of what you use with friends... or with strangers for that matter. You may pout around the house but when the doorbell rings, you open it all smiling and kind. Daring to love means that you'll also want to give your best to your own.
Two main reasons people are rude: ignorance and selfishness (OUCH!) As adults, we know the rules of etiquette... we are either breaking them blindly or are too self-centered to care.
1. How does your spouse feel about the way you speak and act around him?
2. How does your behaviour affect your mate's sense of worth and self-esteem?
3. Would your husband say you're a blessing or that you're condescending and embarrassing??
If you are thinking that your spouse- not you- is the one who needs work in this area, you're likely suffering from a bad case of ignorance, with a secondary condition of selfishness. (OUCH AGAIN)
Guiding principles when it comes to practicing etiquette in your marriage:
*Guard the Golden Rule- treat your mate as you want to be treated (Luke 6:31)
* No Double standards. Be as considerate to your spouse as you are to strangers and coworkers.
* Honor requests. Consider what your husband already asked you to do or not to do.
Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behaviour. This is from their perspective only.